It is not easy to get your children to listen to you and sometimes it is mission impossible for them to listen to your orders. Don’t worry, all fathers and mothers go through this at some point in parenting. Children have other priorities in their life (such as playing or exploring the environment) and that is why, sometimes it can seem that they do not listen to you.
But it’s not that they don’t listen to you, it’s that you have to do it right. Maybe you pay attention to them, you get on their level to talk to them (you bend down and look into their eyes), you talk to them with affection… And they still don’t pay attention to you, then what should you do? Many parents lose their cool and it is when they scream and lose their temper thinking that that way their children will learn to listen to them, but this is not always the case … far from it.
Next we are going to give you some tips so that your children respect your orders, respect you and know that when you say something they should listen to you. But remember first of all, that if you want them to respect you, you must respect them first!
When we get angry, children feel insecure and scared, the moment this happens they will face you or flee from the situation. In his effort to defend or protect himself, he will not listen to you at all because he will feel you are threatened. They won’t listen to your message because they don’t want to hear from someone who treats them badly, it’s that simple!
If, for example, you want your children to get in the car, do not repeat it a thousand times, this will only make you more angry. Take a deep breath and help your children find their shoe or pack their suitcase, for example. Once she’s in the car, ask her to think of ways so she can get out of the house on time the next time.
That routines are not lacking
When things are expected they are easier to do. Most of parents’ communication with children consists of scolding. It’s no wonder children don’t listen. The more routines they have, the less you will have to do as a sergeant.
What kind of routines? Habits, such as what children do before leaving home; brushing teeth, using the bathroom, packing a backpack, putting on shoes, etc. If you have young children, a good idea is to take pictures of them doing these things and put them on a small poster so they know what and when. In this way you can ask questions like: “What do you have to do just before leaving home? Let’s see your schedule ” .
Listen to your son
If you are looking at your mobile screen while your son is telling you something important to him, what do you expect him to do with you when you want to talk to him in the future? You will be modeling an inappropriate form of communication with the family. If you really want your child to listen to you in the future, it is now that you have to stop what you are doing and listen carefully. It’s only a few minutes a day and it’s really worth it!
Start doing this when your child is young and keep doing it when your child is a teenager. We assure you that over time you will appreciate having done it.
Understand what he wants to say to you so that he understands what you want to say
Most of the time, when kids aren’t “listening,” they just haven’t tuned in to you. But if your child seems unable to process your instructions repeatedly, he may have an auditory processing disorder. In this case, you should take your child to the pediatrician for the necessary tests.
Reduce your instructions to what is non-negotiable
If you worked for someone who constantly annoys you with orders, would you like to cooperate? You don’t want every interaction with your child to be just orders. So maximize caring and affectionate interactions and minimize commands only to what is necessary.…